What Do You Do When Someone Obligates You

 

 

 

Obligated is the act of being held bound to something. When something becomes your duty or commitment. A binding contract or promise to a specific person or situation.

 

Falsely obligated is being held or bound to something without consent. Expected to do something without agreement, promise or vow. A false claim put upon a person by improper submission.

 

The family relates to other people by a common progenitor, and they are connected by descendants of the same originator. Relatives consist of parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews children and grand parents. The family ties can be traced for generations to the predecessor.

 

What happens when a relative who you’re connected to has falsely obligated you? So What happens when you’re falsely held to a commitment without your consent because you’re related to another? In there mind you’re supposed to because of the family ties and relations. You’re made to feel obligated by relations. For some reason in their minds you owe them something.  You’re suppose to give to them as well as do for them. Its like a false sense of entitlement where this person feels privileged or deserves it. An unreasonable expectation not of themselves but of what they think you owe them.

 

When you allow yourself to be put in a position of catering to the demands of someone else’s false obligations;

 

 

 

1 Those feeling entitled becomes stuck in their opportunity to grow because theyre waiting on someone else to give them what they can actually do for themselvs.

 

2 Those feeling entitled or as if someone owes them something hinders their own ability to achieve at greater heights.

 

3 Those feeling entitled stunts their own growth development, becomes co-dependent and before they know it theyve aged and nothing has changed.

 

4 Those feeling entitled could end up angry and bitter at those relatives around them because they feel ignored, mishandled, neglected and even mistreaded.

 

5 Those falsley obligated becomes resentful, tired, and under great stress because theyre being held to an unrealistic standard.

 

6 Those falsley obligated can feel manipulated because the other person silently demands special treatment.

 

7 Those falsley obligated is forced to hold the entitled person to a standard of accountability that they should already be operating in.

 

8 Relationships are put under a strain because the falsley obligated is forced to take action, and the entitled may see it as an attack or lack of compassion.

 

I read a very interesting article by iamsignificant.ca, “Shedding False Responsibility”. This article speaks of ways to recognize the false responsibility. How both parties are effected and the power and ability to make the necessary changes.

 

Romans 13:8 KJV Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.

 

Matthew 26:28 KJV For this is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many for the remission of sins.

 

It’s not healthy to allow anyone to put the stresses of their false obligations and demands on you. You don’t owe anyone anything. Don’t allow someone else need to feel entitled, become your responsibility. Relatives owe it to themselves to make things happen on their own. This doesn’t mean you can’t love and support them or lend a hand from time to time.

 

If they’re waiting for you to give them something when they can do for themselves,  that’s an unhealthy state. You should not be held bound to anything or anyone because you’re related unless agreed upon. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for not meeting up to their false obligations. It’s a very selfish state of mind and it needs the attention of a professional to help them recognize this issue and the solution for a healthier relationship. Just because two people are related doesn’t mean the other person have to, supposed to, or owe anything. That’s definitely an unfair position to put someone in.

 

Let’s pray: Heavenly Father we lift up those who feel they are entitled, and those who are under the stress due to the false obligation before you. We ask that you would open their eyes to see themselves as well as the situation clearly. Deliver them from the spirit of entitlement and give them a drive for self accomplishment. Destroy the yokes and lift the heavy burdens off the family member who’s under stress because of it. Bring forth a healing for all involved and peace to the relationship. The word says owe no man but to love, and the blood according to the word was for the remission of sins and to set free not hold anyone bound.

 

BY FAITH