Communication is essential. It’s impossible for you to move through life without communicating with others. Regardless of the method, everyone communicates in some form. Selective communication; how often do you do it? Choosing when, who, and how you communicate with others.
It’s a Necessity
Communication is a necessity in life and can’t be avoided. It’s the ability to be logical and empathetic. An expression of information for a greater understanding. Proficiently connecting with others on a common ground. Successfully exchanging those things that are important and concerning you. Exchanging information is an acquired skill that anyone can learn. Healthy relationships of all sorts derive from effective communication that’s reciprocal. It’s the give and take with true balance.
Being Selective
Selective communication happens without intention. It’s choosing to communicate effectively at precise times. When conducting business at work, expectations are understood in order to maintain that position. Ordering at a restaurant requires being specific about what you like and how you want it prepared. You’re communicating; you’re expressing your desires, likes, and expectations with strangers. You choose the tone, and method of delivery, and to be coherent. Daily you communicate with others without confusion. Selective communication exposes the ability to communicate effectively with strangers but not with loved ones; those closest to you. How does someone go throughout the day expressing wants and needs but struggle with family, friends, and relationships; and lose expression?
You are Capable by Choice
Throughout the day you have already proven to yourself that you have the ability to communicate effectively. Selectively you listen to understand, and you express your needs, feelings, and concerns with those you transact business with. It’s not too often that it ends in disrespect or discord because they have something you need. You have patience, you are clear and concise, and you are courteous and respectful. You even trust in what’s being said without real evidence or proof; taking them at their word. If you can do this with strangers, you can do this with those in your personal and intimate spaces. If you view your personal and intimate spaces as something you need, you will handle them differently.
From a Spiritual Standpoint:
The word was the first to define communication for everyone by saying “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” Your speech should be seasoned and gracious; guarding the mouth. The words that flow from the mouth and the heart should be acceptable to the Lord. Speaking with one another in love shows maturity. Those in your life are there for a reason, if you look for the need you will begin to see the value and navigate differently. Would you speak to or in front of the Lord that way, or those you esteem so highly. You have the ability to have healthy relationships and communicate without selection.
Let’s Pray:
Heavenly Father gives us the wisdom to communicate effectively in all relationships whether transactional, personal, or intimate. Selectivity will not be an option, every opportunity to communicate will be delivered in its highest form based on your word to listen with understanding, be gracious, and be respectful. I can see where I’ve chosen to selectively have successful communication with some and with others not so much. Help me to identify areas for changes and improvement.
By Faith
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